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Food addiciton |
"Hi, I have had a weight problem all my life. But I think it
is more of a pleasure problem It is also a self esteem of
issue. Food was always a reward or "to keep me happy" kind
of thing. Food is a happy gathering kind of thing...
holidays.. going out to eat..sweet cakes on my birthday.
Even as a baby I am sure that I was given food when I wasn't
given personal attention.
Diet's are a form of restrictions. When a person is on a
"diet" it is like a statement to everyone around them that
they are trying to lose weight. They are telling the people
around them they can only eat a certain foods... That food
is the food that is on the diet. It is a form of restriction
on a loved one. They now have to show their love by helping
me stay on a diet. With a "diet" it seems easier for a
person to watch me sweat and work out harder to obtain that
new weight that I have set for myself.
I seem to think that being one of the reasons for me being
fat. As a baby, a child is given a bottle to drink to make
them happy and stop crying. Even I give myself pleasure with
food. I have learned to have pleasure from food.
Now diet, is a plan of food a person eats for life to keep a
certain weight. OK.. the rules change, and now my self
esteem is up and I am worth surviving. Yes, it is a survival
issue. Eating too much can kill me.
Of course the story of being fat isn't that easily answered
or talked about. There are many other factors on the way I
think about this issue. There is much more to it. Much, much
more.
And this wonderful web site and you wonderful gals are
helping me. Women need more self esteem on many issues.
Women can and deserve to be happy. "
- Peggy (WSE member)
Thank You Peggy for allowing me to share your post in my
blog.
For people with an emotional addiction for food, losing
their extra weight is a lot harder than eating less food and
getting on the treadmill. Many people are over weight
because they are suffering with an inner issue. They will
use food as an emotional void filler. The only reason they
are hungry is because they are sad. They have confused
hunger with sadness. They use food as their drug to feel
calmness. They will eat and space out as an addict does
after a fix. They will also fall into the roller coaster of
self-loathing. Loathing the fact that they once again fell
into the unnecessary need for food.
People that are obese and actually have lost weight, are of
two minds. They feel like they are someone else when they
are thinner and live a life where they fear that they could
fall into that food addiction at any second. The other mind
is the one that is consumed with self-disgust and a weakness
for the addiction of food. People with eating addictions
love and hate food. Again being of two minds. They try to
justify themselves, by criticizing people without food
addictions. They will drive by fast food restaurants and
debate within themselves, only to increase the need for
food. Which only causes them to devour even more than usual.
They are in a constant battle with, should I or shouldn't I.
I know I shouldn't but I so want to. It's a viscous circle
for them.
One of the hardest things for obese people to deal with is
the whispers and snickers from other people as they pass by
them. They know well enough that they disgust people just by
watching their reactions, yet is is not enough to make them
stop eating. Obese people are ridiculed in public all the
time and they loose out on many relationships because the
other person cannot understand their addiction for food.
Food addicts will even ignore that they are literally
killing themselves with every bite that they do not need.
They choose to not think about it, as any addict does.
Some will say that solving food addiction is as easy as just
telling people to stop being lazy, to exercise and to stop
over eating. For them, food means so many things besides
fueling their bodies with nutrients. Their addiction will
totally over rule their nature to protect themselves, health
wise or society`s concerns about appearance.
Depression, low self-esteem, history of abuse, poverty,
family obesity and emotionally troubled childhood
upbringings are a few of the greatest causes that trigger
off food addiction. As I said earlier in this article,
people are desperate to fill an emptiness. Food is the
easiest route to reaching that full feeling they desire.
Emotional emptiness is the monster that creates the
addiction in obese people.
You would think that with all the methods that have proven
to help people with their weight issues, there would not be
a single overweight person, but the numbers are growing
faster every day. Obesity is one of the only health issues
the we know how to battle and prevent, yet we fail to do so.
Why is that?
Is it because FAT is one of those HUSH words?
Do we ignore the overweight issues of others, so not to
hurt their feelings?
Are we doing them any favours by pretending it is OK to be
dangerously overweight?
Do we feel that if they like themselves like that, who are
we to judge them?
Do we think to ourselves, better them than me?
People that are addicted to the food drug are just as
imprisoned as any other addict. There is only one way to get
off the drug, and that is to seek help. Also they must want
to get off this drug, for themselves. They must want to feel
good about themselves. To be able to get to that point, they
must build their self-esteem and address the skeletons in
their closets. This is why I created womensselfesteem.com.
This is one road to an addiction-free place in your mind.
As you read in Peggy`s post, she has finally begun her climb
up the mountain to a better feeling person. She wanted to
share this with other women that are behind those bars of
food addiction. It is beatable. You just have to want to
begin the battle.
Again HUGGZZZZ Peggy.
Dorothy Lafrinere
Owner/Operater
Website- www.womensselfesteem.com
Forum- womenselfesteem.proboards29.com |
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