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Is Anxiety Is What We Are Feeling |
We have our little linguistic tricks that help us avoid the experience of anxiety, but those same linguistic tricks keep us from doing the work that we hope to do and prevent us from achieving our goals.
Here are ten common linguistic tricks we pull to help mask our budding anxiety.
* "I'm not ready."
"I'm not quite ready to get started on this canvas."
"I won't be ready to call that gallery owner for another few weeks."
* "I don't feel like it."
"I just don't feel like showing him my work."
"I don't feel like auditioning for parts that require an accent."
* "I don't feel well."
"I never feel very well right before my painting class."
"I don't feel well enough to meet those collectors tonight."
* "I can't think straight."
"I just can't think straight about this term paper."
"I always feel spaced out in critique sessions."
* "I can't do it."
"I couldn't ask such a famous artist to look at my work."
"I can't draw on muggy days."
* "I don't know what to say."
"I never know what to say when people tell me they like my work."
"I have this screenplay I want to write but I don't know how to begin it."
* "I can't see the point."
"I can't see the point in auditioning for that - I'm just not the type."
"I can't see the point in approaching a gallery owner cold. What would he think?"
* "It feels too difficult."
"It feels too hard working with watercolors."
"I could make a short video but a long one feels too difficult."
* "What's happening here?"
"Oh, I had no idea there'd be critiquing in this class!"
"The class description did not say we'd be painting outdoors!"
* "I do better with * "
"I would do better with a collaborator who knew how to score film."
"I'd probably do better working on smaller-sized canvases."
* "Yes, but - "
"Yes, I should get my paper ready, but there's a whole two days left."
"I should enter that competition, but I don't really have a chance."
You'll gain better control of your life and the situations that arise in your life if you bravely stop to notice how your language works to "protect" you from the experience of anxiety.
One active way to practice self-awareness is to use the following little exercise on a regular basis.
You name an issue, name some of the fears that arise in you with respect to that issue, remind yourself why you don't want to give in to those fears, name some concrete strategies you mean to employ to deal with the issue, and announce what steps you'll take "in the world" to handle the issue.
The following is an example of how this exercise might work.
Issue: Finding the Courage to be an Artist
Fears
* That I won't make it
* That I'll starve
* That I have no talent
* That creating is a dead end
Reminders
* Creating allows me to feel whole
* I love it when I create well
* I only feel human when I create
* I only get to use my talents and resources when I create
Strategies
* I will acknowledge the fear and create anyway
* I will learn one or two anxiety management tools
* I will practice taking risks
* I will reduce my fear-based negative self-talk
To Do in the World
* I will take one important risk this week
* I will do one thing that I‚m afraid of doing
* I will tackle my creative work, even if I'm feeling anxious
* I will help my career along, even if I'm feeling anxious
Give this little exercise a try. It can reveal a lot and help you a lot.
Jammy Hokins writes for www.anxietyremedies.info where you can find out more about cheap hotels and other topics. |
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